Stephen Perkins

Stephen Jeffrey Perkins MD

Monday, April 18th, 1960 - Thursday, May 23rd, 2019
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The man. The myth. The legend. Dr. Stephen Jeffrey Perkins loved his family and friends, his patients, and fresh-picked sweet corn from his garden. An emergency room physician serving the Northern Neck for the past two decades, Steve died on May 19, 2019—just weeks after his retirement as Chairman of the Department of Emergency Medicine and President of the Medical Staff for Bon Secours Rappahannock General Hospital—doing exactly what he loved, spending time with a good friend on his boat on the Rappahannock River.

Born April 18, 1960, in Plattsburgh, New York, Steve graduated from Ruskin High School near Kansas City, Missouri, in 1978. He joined the U.S. Army and graduated with a BA/MD from the University of Missouri-Kansas City School of Medicine.

The young Lieutenant and his bride spent the next year stationed in Oahu, Hawaii, during Steve’s OB/GYN internship and the following two years in Heilbronn, Germany, where he practiced medicine at the Army base clinic. Steve and Julie returned to the States in 1987 when he accepted a three-year residency in Emergency Medicine at Fort Sam Houston in San Antonio, Texas. The couple was later re-located to Fort Carson in Colorado Springs, Colorado, where Steve was awarded a meritorious medal for service as Chief of Emergency Medical Services in 1992 and promoted to the rank of Major. There, they welcomed their daughter to the world.

Having fulfilled his commitment to the military, Steve accepted a position in the Emergency Department at Salem Hospital in Massachusetts, and the young family moved to Danvers. The Perkins family was complete with the birth of their son in 1994.

Yearning for a warmer climate and enough land to create a garden, the family found their way to White Stone on the Northern Neck of Virginia, in 1999. Steve started practice at Rappahannock General Hospital in Kilmarnock. When he wasn’t there, you could find him at home, planting trees and shrubs. Years passed, the garden grew, and the children set out on their own. Steve and Julie moved to an enchanted cottage in Wharton Grove, Weems.

Steve had an incurable curiosity and was a voracious reader. At one Thanksgiving, he declared his thankfulness for British crime dramas. He was decidedly a man of science as well as an accomplished cook. Steve was known among his friends and family for his acerbic wit, astute olfactory system, and a dauntless sense of adventure. He was sometimes known to return letters with spelling and grammatical errors corrected.

Steve is survived by his wife, Julie, daughter Grace and son William; his mother, Margaret Perkins-Mayville, brothers Mike and Rik, and sister, Darcy Dinenny. A casual gathering to honor Steve will be held June 9, from 3 to 5 p.m. at the Hope and Glory Inn in Irvington, Virginia. Memorial contributions in Steve’s name may be made to the Northern Neck Free Health Clinic, National Public Radio, and the National Democratic Party.
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    Sunday, June 9th, 2019 | 3:00pm
    Sunday, June 9th, 2019 3:00pm
    Hope & Glory Inn
    Address not given
    65 Tavern Rd, Irvington, VA 22480


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Michael Mulligan

Posted at 06:52pm
Steve was my senior partner at UMKC. He was instrumental in forming my approach to problem solving in medicine (as well as in life) He taught me how to take in the whole environment and my surroundings into the equation.
Life lessons, well learned.
Thanks Steve
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Rik Perkins

Posted at 03:44pm

it was tough saying goodbye to you this weekend. I love you and will miss you more than you will ever know. You taught me something, life is short, live for today for tomorrow is never promised. I had heard it before, read about it, but now understand it better than ever. Live, Love and forgive often.
You touched so many lives and was grateful to meet many that knew you, way better than I. You know what, you were a pretty amazing guy and it was obvious because of all the great things I heard about you talking with some really close friends of yours. You had a lot, about 400 I think because the whole town showed up and along with many other towns! Touched some with your friendship, some you touched because of your saving them or a loved one and some even both. Many said you were friends after saving or fixing them in the E.R. Says a lot about you, the parts I never could have known. I am proud to be your brother Steve. Thanks for all the people that attended his service, you helped me tremendously. You were gracious and honest, had many stories to tell that mad us smile in a time of sadness. your wife Julie, your amazing young adult kids were so good to everyone and spent time with all of us.

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Posted at 08:08am
Julie, Grace & William: We are so grieved by your loss. Our thoughts are with you.
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Paul Sixta

Posted at 07:23pm
Paul Sixta

Steve & his family lived across the street during my teen years and his Mother Dolly and my Mom were good friends the rest of my Mom's life. I remember one day back then asking his brother Mike what Steve was doing and he said he was dissecting a frog. So, while most of us boys were out playing the sport of the season, he was starting his career path of caring for and saving people's lives. While I had not seen Steve for over 40 years, I feel honored to have known him and what he accomplished throughout his life. My deepest condolences to Dolly, Mike, Darcy & Rik.

Paul Sixta Posted at 10:39pm

Julie, Grace & William, I am sorry for the loss of such a great person.


Posted at 12:26pm
I had the privilege of being Steve's sister and always living in his shadow. Hearing, "Oh, you're Steve's sister?" throughout junior high and high school was NEVER a bad thing! In fact, I'm sure it benefited me in many ways. I once stopped by the hospital while he was working and got to listen to him interact with his patients. He was genuinely kind and caring with each one of them, no matter their complaint. I know he enjoyed a good glass of wine because he made me pay for it the last time he was home in KC. He loved his garden, was looking forward to retirement and could not wait to see both of his children, scheduled to arrive just days before he died. We both loved books and had both endured bilateral knee replacements (though he wasn't tough enough to do both of his at the same time!). He taught me to love Terry Brooks, something I passed onto my boys. Cherokee People by Paul Revere and The Raiders will ALWAYS make me think of him, as will Billy Joel. I was lucky to know him for 56 years and he will be missed every single day by me, and by my children and grandchildren, who adored Uncle Steve. Rest in peace, my amazing, intelligent, compassionate, sassy, accomplished and inspiring brother.

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